If you want to achieve all your goals and do not want any unnecessary stress in life, do not get married or cohabit. Do not feel pressured by what is happening around you among your peers or friends. Not all people are destined for marriage or to be together. Understand that early on in your adult life.
“Behind every great relationship are difficult and uncomfortable conversations we rarely get to see. Great relationships don’t just fall into our laps. They require people to move through their fears, and insecurities and do the hard work to move wounds into healing.” – Vienna Pharon
Pursuit of Happyness may not be many people’s choice as a favourite movie. Still, it is a very memorable movie for me, and one of the slightly better movies on TV over the festive period. It was notable for me because it revealed in spectacular detail the struggles and stresses we face as human beings. By the end of the movie, I was dumbfounded because I had to remind myself that this was a true story. A man and his son went through this. It was also the first time a movie had brought tears to my eyes (the softy that I am). Chris Gardner was a phenomenal hero of his own life. The story of Chris Gardner is very touching because it reveals the worst that can happen to any capable person. Gardner is a bright salesman and family man. When an investment goes wrong, his family is brought to the brink of financial disaster. As time progresses and the family’s troubles intensify, Chris’s wife leaves him and their son to move to another city. Chris becomes broke, and he and his son rely on homeless shelters for food and a place to sleep. Chris goes through immense hardship personally and financially but takes some solace when he sees an opportunity for a stockbroker internship position come up. He then becomes dedicated to this opportunity driven by a steadfast commitment to his son. Chris faces one challenge and setback after another (including failing to sell a bone density scanner), but his resolve remains strong. In the end, it was his commitment and self-belief that won him the job.
Here are some insights into Chris’s character:
He didn’t let his problems define him
He didn’t want any sympathy from anybody
He cherished his relationship with his son
He did things he wasn’t comfortable with
He didn’t let his feelings get the better off him
He persevered – adamant and determined to sell the scanner despite all its flaws
He remained professional throughout his troubles
He believed in his abilities
These are eight things that stood out to me from the character of Chris Gardner, but the one thing that kept Chris Gardner going despite all his hardship was that he was proactive in everything he did. It was this momentum that spurred him to win the job he so desperately wanted, and by doing so, he was able to reverse his fortunes. It takes a big man to fall from grace and manage to get back on his feet again. Chris Gardner is living proof that bouncing back from despair is possible.