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Top 10 Life Survival Tips for the Realist

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Life can be pretty stressful. On an emotional level though, stress is dangerous and really begins to set in and manifest itself in all sorts of unpleasant forms. Here are ten tips to keep things simple and manageable.

  1. Be yourself – Don’t become a clone of somebody else. Take strength from your individuality. If there is pressure to perform, don’t try to imitate others or else you might end up failing. Find out what works best for you and stick to it.
  2. If things aren’t working out – Things get worse before they get better and often bad news comes together. Remember that you have to have darkness for the dawn to come so be patient.
  3. Don’t strive for perfection – Sometimes it is sensible not to aim for the number 1 spot. Not positioning yourself to be number 1, would probably mean that you would never have to suffer from being knocked off the top so play it nice and easy.
  4. Don’t give up – The sooner you realise that success is tied to not giving up the better. Throwing in the towel is a lot easier so be the person who persists and responds when the going gets tough
  5. Don’t be averse to change -Some people hate change and as a result miss out on potential opportunities. Simply making a few adjustments to the way you think, or to your skills may open you up to a plethora of opportunities that otherwise might not arise.
  6. Happiness comes in small increments – Don’t expect to get quick outcomes when you put in the hard work. The path to success is littered with obstacles, small and large. Whatever you do though, make sure to celebrate the slightest successes in your life as that will get you into a happy, motivational mindset.
  7. Do something that doesn’t come easy – If you don’t go beyond your comfort zone, you won’t go very far. The difference between successful people and the not so successful is their ability to make sacrifices with their comfort zone. Push yourself to get what you really want
  8. Have a plan in life and aim for it – It really is very important to have some sort of goal in your life. Ask yourself what really matters to you in your life and have the end in mind i.e. what do you want to achieve by the time you reach 50. Goals can be perfect motivators and help create a disciplined mindset.
  9. Don’t be fazed by others – If somebody at work says something negative about you or takes a dig at you, don’t take it seriously. It might be that they see you from an entirely different perspective or are probably envious about you in some way. Either way, learn how to develop a thick skin.
  10. Take life as it comes – There’s no need to live life 100 mph. Slow down and take each day as it comes, and don’t try to over analyse life. If you get caught up in it, you are going to set yourself up to fail.

So don’t let the pressures of life run you down. Making the adjustments above will allow you minimise the stressors and instead you will focus on the things that truly matter to you and make you happy.

29 things I have learnt so far in life

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Life is a journey as one of my former managers said. In this festive season, I thought it would be best to highlight some lessons I have learnt and the wisdom passed on by others in both my professional and private life. I see the following as wake up calls, harsh lessons, reality checks and even motivational thoughts. So in no particular order, here they are:

  1. Things get worse before they get better
  2. Bad news tends to come together at the same time
  3. Opportunities can jump at you when you least expect them to
  4. Your gut instinct is always almost right
  5. You may not always get what you ask for
  6. You may have to settle for your second choice: you probably won’t get your first choice
  7. Bear in mind that you may have to take small, baby steps to make big advances
  8. Don’t look for quick fixes: be prepared to being excruciatingly patient
  9. Stay the course before making a final decision
  10. Don’t be afraid to ask advice from others
  11. If something  isn’t working out, don’t be scared and shy of admitting defeat: bail before you get washed out
  12. Don’t be afraid of experimenting, taking risks
  13. Don’t always look to be in your comfort zone: accept that you need to push yourself to get better at doing what you do
  14. Accept that some things will never be perfect
  15. Don’t be afraid to challenge the status quo
  16. Punch above your own weight
  17. See boring, uninspiring tasks as challenges as you never know where they might lead you
  18. When it comes to jobs and companies, it invariably comes down to cultural fit so don’t beat yourself up if you don’t manage to secure an offer
  19. Try avoiding people who have  detrimental impact on your life
  20. All things being equal, the simplest explanation normally tend to be the right one
  21. A degree doesn’t make you intelligent but it gives you an edge
  22. Not everybody is capable of maintaining a professional approach to work
  23. It is easy to be a micro – manager but far harder to be an inspirational, likeable manager
  24. You don’t need to sweat to prove a point and nor does it make you more authoritative
  25. Don’t take things seriously and more importantly, don’t take yourself seriously
  26. Accept that you won’t always get things right the first time
  27. It may take people a while to understand what you are all about
  28. Extract happiness from the smallest things in life
  29. There will inevitably come a time in life, when you will run into the wrong people who will have a detrimental impact on your life

Most importantly though, ‘be certain to learn life’s lessons and move on’.