Life is all about growth, be it in our personal or working lives. When there is no growth, we become disillusioned and lose our way. Our happiness suffers, our motivation dips, and we become dissatisfied. Make development a priority in your life.
“You are under no obligation to remain the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or even a day ago. You are here o create yourself continuously.” – @ProfFeynman
Covid-19 and the lockdown are causing many people to re-evaluate things in their life. People have been impacted in different ways to this crisis. There’s a lot of soul – searching going on as we all try to establish what our new normal might look like. I have been doing my introspection and have come up with my tips for a brighter and more sustainable future. I’m just sharing these to help others who are currently concerned what their future outlook might be.
Career stagnation is one of the most frustrating experiences anybody can go through. Some people have continuous career success; some experience lulls and some end up in a downward spiral and struggle to pick themselves up.
To get around this, you need to peel back the layers to understand what is behind the crisis, and that involves a proper understanding of what inspires and motivates you. Here are eleven thought-provoking questions you need to ask yourself to help you put an action plan together to get you back on track.
1. Am I using my time, background and experience effectively?
2. What things can I control in my career?
3. What is achievable?
4. How do I come across to others?
5. What are my weaknesses?
6. What’s great about my career so far?
7. What are my core values?
8. Am I aligned with my values?
9. What does success look like to me?
10. Where do I want to be in my career five years from now?
11. How can I move forward and facilitate the achievement of my goals?
In the words of Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson, “success at anything will always come down to this: focus and effort and we control both.” Regardless of where you are in your career, your attitude will play a crucial part in determining your career trajectory.
Life can be pretty stressful. On an emotional level, though, stress is dangerous and begins to set in and manifest itself in all sorts of unpleasant forms. Here are ten tips to keep things simple and manageable.
Be yourself – Don’t become a clone of somebody else. Take strength from your individuality. If there is pressure to perform, don’t try to imitate others or else you might end up failing. Find out what works best for you and stick to it.
If things aren’t working out – Things get worse before they get better and often lousy news comes together. Remember that you have to have the darkness for the dawn to come, so be patient.
Don’t strive for perfection – Sometimes it is sensible not to aim for the number 1 spot. Not positioning yourself to be number 1, would probably mean that you would never have to suffer from being knocked off the top, so play it friendly and relaxed.
Don’t give up – The sooner you realise that success is tied to not giving up the better. Throwing in the towel is a lot easier to be the person who persists and responds when the going gets tough
Don’t be reluctant to change -Some people hate change and as a result, miss out on potential opportunities. Only making a few adjustments to the way you think, or to your skills may open you up to a plethora of opportunities that otherwise might not arise.
Happiness comes in small increments – Don’t expect to get quick outcomes when you put in the hard work. The path to success is littered with obstacles, small and large. Whatever you do, though, make sure to celebrate the slightest achievements in your life as that will get you into a happy, motivational mindset.
Do something that doesn’t come easy – If you don’t go beyond your comfort zone, you won’t go very far. The difference between successful people and the not so successful is their ability to make sacrifices with their comfort zone. Push yourself to get what you want
Have a plan in life and aim for it – It is crucial to have some goal in your life. Ask yourself what matters to you in your life and have the end in mind, i.e. what do you want to achieve by the time you reach 50. Goals can be perfect motivators and help create a disciplined mindset.
Don’t be fazed by others – If somebody at work says something negative about you or takes a dig at you, don’t take it seriously. It might be that they see you from an entirely different perspective or are probably envious about you in some way. Either way, learn how to develop a thick skin.
Take life as it comes – There’s no need to live life 100 mph. Please slow down and take each day as it happens, and don’t try to analyse the experience over. If you get caught up in it, you are going to set yourself up to fail.
So don’t let the pressures of life run you down. You are making the adjustments above will allow you to minimise the stressors, and instead, you will focus on the things that truly matter to you and make you happy.
Life is a journey as one of my former managers said. In this festive season, I thought it would be best to highlight some lessons I have learnt and the wisdom passed on by others in both my professional and private life. I see the following as wake up calls, harsh experiences, reality checks and even motivational thoughts. So in no particular order, here they are:
Things get worse before they get better
Bad news tends to come together at the same time
Opportunities can jump at you when you least expect them to
Your gut instinct is always almost right
You may not ever get what you ask for
You may have to settle for your second choice: you probably won’t get your first choice
Bear in mind that you may have to take small, baby steps to make significant advances
Don’t look for quick fixes: be prepared to be excruciatingly patient
Stay the course before making a final decision
Don’t be afraid to ask advice from others
If something isn’t working out, don’t be scared and shy of admitting defeat: bail before you get washed out
Don’t be afraid of experimenting, taking risks
Don’t always look to be in your comfort zone: accept that you need to push yourself to get better at doing what you do
Accept that some things will never be perfect
Don’t be afraid to challenge the status quo
Punch above your weight
See tedious, uninspiring tasks as challenges as you never know where they might lead you
When it comes to jobs and companies, it invariably comes down to cultural fit so don’t beat yourself up if you don’t manage to secure an offer
Try avoiding people who have a detrimental impact on your life
All things being equal, the simplest explanation usually tend to be the right one
A degree doesn’t make you intelligent, but it gives you an edge
Not everybody is capable of maintaining a professional approach to work
It is easy to be a micromanager but far harder to be an inspirational, likeable manager
You don’t need to sweat to prove a point and nor does it make you more authoritative
Don’t take things seriously and more importantly, don’t take yourself seriously
Accept that you won’t always get things right the first time
It may take people a while to understand what you are all about
Extract happiness from the smallest things in life
There will inevitably come a time in life when you will run into the wrong people who will have a detrimental impact on your life
Most importantly, though, ‘be certain to learn life’s lessons and move on’.