We approach change in the wrong way. In companies, we employ change management specialists in the hope that they wave their magic wand and bring about overnight changes. In our personal lives, we hope that a pep talk from someone will trigger a difference in our thinking. Instead, we need to focus on our behaviours.
“We repeat about 40 percent of our behaviour almost daily, so our habits shape our existence and our future. If we change our habits, we change our lives.” – Gretchen Rubin
You lost your job, and you didn’t get that promotion you wanted, you got a bad performance review, you lost a loved one, you had an accident and became injured, you are struggling with your mental health. Whatever you are going through at the moment, you will bounce back but do it in your own time and on your terms.
“When life knocks you down, sometimes you need to take your time to get back up. Don’t allow anyone to rush your process.’ – @Inspirewithyas
I’m a big believer in both vocal and visual affirmation. It’s a great way to quickly boost your mood and outlook because regardless of what type of work you do, there will always be something that stresses you out so take some time out of your day to reflect. If you can recall sometime in your life where you have been successful and visualize that in your mind, that will really help you – trust me! For me, its sports. I was a keen rugby player during my school days so I can look back and visualize my good performances to help lift my mood. However, in the absence of visual affirmations, below are eight statements (use whatever is relevant to you) you can use to elevate yourself.
Life can be pretty stressful. On an emotional level, though, stress is dangerous and begins to set in and manifest itself in all sorts of unpleasant forms. Here are ten tips to keep things simple and manageable.
Be yourself – Don’t become a clone of somebody else. Take strength from your individuality. If there is pressure to perform, don’t try to imitate others or else you might end up failing. Find out what works best for you and stick to it.
If things aren’t working out – Things get worse before they get better and often lousy news comes together. Remember that you have to have the darkness for the dawn to come, so be patient.
Don’t strive for perfection – Sometimes it is sensible not to aim for the number 1 spot. Not positioning yourself to be number 1, would probably mean that you would never have to suffer from being knocked off the top, so play it friendly and relaxed.
Don’t give up – The sooner you realise that success is tied to not giving up the better. Throwing in the towel is a lot easier to be the person who persists and responds when the going gets tough
Don’t be reluctant to change -Some people hate change and as a result, miss out on potential opportunities. Only making a few adjustments to the way you think, or to your skills may open you up to a plethora of opportunities that otherwise might not arise.
Happiness comes in small increments – Don’t expect to get quick outcomes when you put in the hard work. The path to success is littered with obstacles, small and large. Whatever you do, though, make sure to celebrate the slightest achievements in your life as that will get you into a happy, motivational mindset.
Do something that doesn’t come easy – If you don’t go beyond your comfort zone, you won’t go very far. The difference between successful people and the not so successful is their ability to make sacrifices with their comfort zone. Push yourself to get what you want
Have a plan in life and aim for it – It is crucial to have some goal in your life. Ask yourself what matters to you in your life and have the end in mind, i.e. what do you want to achieve by the time you reach 50. Goals can be perfect motivators and help create a disciplined mindset.
Don’t be fazed by others – If somebody at work says something negative about you or takes a dig at you, don’t take it seriously. It might be that they see you from an entirely different perspective or are probably envious about you in some way. Either way, learn how to develop a thick skin.
Take life as it comes – There’s no need to live life 100 mph. Please slow down and take each day as it happens, and don’t try to analyse the experience over. If you get caught up in it, you are going to set yourself up to fail.
So don’t let the pressures of life run you down. You are making the adjustments above will allow you to minimise the stressors, and instead, you will focus on the things that truly matter to you and make you happy.
How do you motivate yourself? For some people motivation flows naturally like a river. For others it is an elusive element in their lives. One thing I have learnt is that no matter how hard things get and in times of great need, it is often the words of others that can trigger a spark in you that can kick start your motivation and allow you to bounce back. A blog post by Srini Rao (www.theskooloflife.com) has done just that for me. His post “Tips for Navigating the Waters of Life” is a tremendously inspiring and no nonsense look at dealing with life’s challenges. Below is a summarized version of the key points in his post.
Your instincts are almost always right
Your instincts are the higher self speaking
If you go against instinct you are likely to land yourself in a complete mess
Be Wary of the Steps You Take
If you decide on something, be absolutely 100 per cent sure you can see it through
Know when it’s just time to bail out when you feel you can’t manage it
Don’t worry about getting ahead of others, focus on what you are doing right now – play your own game
Be present and the rest will take care of itself
Being in the present will allow you to achieve peak performance
Don’t focus too much on the future and don’t get caught up in the past, this is a recipe for mediocrity
Erase Failure and Get Back Up
You’re ability to deal with failure and setback will determine whether or not you have what it takes to achieve what you are truly capable of in your life
Often the second wave of opportunity is better than the first so don’t beat yourself up. Your friends are on their first wave of opportunity
If you keep critiquing yourself with others then you are likely miss out on the second wave of opportunity which is often better than the first
There is no need to live life 100 mph, just slow down because you will get where you want to go much faster and you are less likely to suffer a setback
Small is Better
Don’t make gigantic leaps because it is the small things in life that make the big difference and you will spend less effort for more results
Timing is Important
Take advantage of opportunities that may not be present in the good times.
Tough economic times often drive people towards innovation and breakthrough and this just happens to be timing at work
Wave Selection is the Key
The key to success in any area of life is dependent on the choices you make so choose wisely
Catching the right wave will enable you to catch one wave after another
Choose the wrong wave and you will have to endure a hard time and work extra hard to pull your head out of the water
Laugh and Smile Everyday
The age old saying, ‘laughter is the best medicine’ is still true
It is a medicine that you won’t find in any pharmacy and costs you absolutely nothing
Srini’s analogy of viewing life’s opportunities and chances as waves provides a fresh and sensible way of looking at life. This may be the only success principle you need to follow. It has certainly allowed me to look at life from a different perspective, and it may do the same for you too.