We approach change in the wrong way. In companies, we employ change management specialists in the hope that they wave their magic wand and bring about overnight changes. In our personal lives, we hope that a pep talk from someone will trigger a difference in our thinking. Instead, we need to focus on our behaviours.
“We repeat about 40 percent of our behaviour almost daily, so our habits shape our existence and our future. If we change our habits, we change our lives.” – Gretchen Rubin
You lost your job, and you didn’t get that promotion you wanted, you got a bad performance review, you lost a loved one, you had an accident and became injured, you are struggling with your mental health. Whatever you are going through at the moment, you will bounce back but do it in your own time and on your terms.
“When life knocks you down, sometimes you need to take your time to get back up. Don’t allow anyone to rush your process.’ – @Inspirewithyas
How do you motivate yourself? For some people motivation flows naturally like a river. For others it is an elusive element in their lives. One thing I have learnt is that no matter how hard things get and in times of great need, it is often the words of others that can trigger a spark in you that can kick start your motivation and allow you to bounce back. A blog post by Srini Rao (www.theskooloflife.com) has done just that for me. His post “Tips for Navigating the Waters of Life” is a tremendously inspiring and no nonsense look at dealing with life’s challenges. Below is a summarized version of the key points in his post.
Your instincts are almost always right
Your instincts are the higher self speaking
If you go against instinct you are likely to land yourself in a complete mess
Be Wary of the Steps You Take
If you decide on something, be absolutely 100 per cent sure you can see it through
Know when it’s just time to bail out when you feel you can’t manage it
Don’t worry about getting ahead of others, focus on what you are doing right now – play your own game
Be present and the rest will take care of itself
Being in the present will allow you to achieve peak performance
Don’t focus too much on the future and don’t get caught up in the past, this is a recipe for mediocrity
Erase Failure and Get Back Up
You’re ability to deal with failure and setback will determine whether or not you have what it takes to achieve what you are truly capable of in your life
Often the second wave of opportunity is better than the first so don’t beat yourself up. Your friends are on their first wave of opportunity
If you keep critiquing yourself with others then you are likely miss out on the second wave of opportunity which is often better than the first
There is no need to live life 100 mph, just slow down because you will get where you want to go much faster and you are less likely to suffer a setback
Small is Better
Don’t make gigantic leaps because it is the small things in life that make the big difference and you will spend less effort for more results
Timing is Important
Take advantage of opportunities that may not be present in the good times.
Tough economic times often drive people towards innovation and breakthrough and this just happens to be timing at work
Wave Selection is the Key
The key to success in any area of life is dependent on the choices you make so choose wisely
Catching the right wave will enable you to catch one wave after another
Choose the wrong wave and you will have to endure a hard time and work extra hard to pull your head out of the water
Laugh and Smile Everyday
The age old saying, ‘laughter is the best medicine’ is still true
It is a medicine that you won’t find in any pharmacy and costs you absolutely nothing
Srini’s analogy of viewing life’s opportunities and chances as waves provides a fresh and sensible way of looking at life. This may be the only success principle you need to follow. It has certainly allowed me to look at life from a different perspective, and it may do the same for you too.
Disruptive change has prompted many employees to reflect on their careers. As skills sets become scarcer in certain professions and sectors, individuals with particularly hard to find skills sets are increasingly in demand. Faced with increased probability of getting a call from a head-hunter/recruiter, here are three questions you need to ask yourself before considering a potential career move.
Will the opportunity offered, improve my quality of life?
If I chose to stay in my current role, what is the next step for me with my current employer?
What isn’t working for me in my current role?
Will the proposed role add value to my career in the long run?
Focusing your discussion on the above four questions will ensure that you cover the critical aspects with the head-hunter/recruiter. By doing this, you will keep the conversation flowing and allow yourself to make an informed decision about whether or not to progress discussions to the next level.