Need to hack life? Then, try this approach! When I turned 40, I felt that life had passed me by. After a lot of kicking my backside, I managed to build a respectable career, but there was so much emptiness inside me. The previous 14 years were sad, painful, turbulent and ordinary for me. I had to take a good look at myself and reevaluate my priorities and change the way I approached life. I started reading a lot in 2018 – mental health and self – help books and online blogs. I then started to collect all those excerpts from books and snippets from online blogs that I found helpful and set about putting together my own ‘well – being and mental health toolbox.’ Now, whenever I feel down or need myself to refocus, I open them up on my phone and read through them to motivate and coach myself out of the problem I am facing. As I build my toolbox, I intend to catalogue a solution for every eventuality I face.”
“Switch your mentality from I’m broken and helpless to I’m growing and healing and watch how fast your life changes, for the better.” – @blondementalhealthblogger
If you want to achieve all your goals and do not want any unnecessary stress in life, do not get married or cohabit. Do not feel pressured by what is happening around you among your peers or friends. Not all people are destined for marriage or to be together. Understand that early on in your adult life.
“Behind every great relationship are difficult and uncomfortable conversations we rarely get to see. Great relationships don’t just fall into our laps. They require people to move through their fears, and insecurities and do the hard work to move wounds into healing.” – Vienna Pharon
Introspection is such an important part of truly understanding ourselves to identify our blind spots. It’s sad when people get older, and they have regrets about their life of the things they should and shouldn’t have done, the people they treated badly and the reckless decisions they made. Take a good look at yourself before you go about your business.
LOOK INSIDE YOURSELF
“Live your life the best you can. It can be hard, even on good days, but still do it, work the best you can, and give yourself credit And if you have flaws, fine. Just do not focus on them; work on them. If you looked only at your flaws, you probably would not feel worthy to be here because you would see the errors of your behavior and the imperfections of your body. So focus on the goodness of the work you do, and correct the flaws as you go along.” – John –Roger
Your primary objective in your daily routine should be to look out for yourself. You aren’t selfish for doing so. You will be in the best possible shape to take on the challenges life throws at you.
“You owe yourself one hour a day of self-maintenance. It can include reading, writing, yoga, exercise, dancing, meditation, painting, or whatever, but you owe it to yourself. One hour, 1/24 of your day. That is less than 5%. It matters, it really does.” – Sarah Brassard
One of the key takeaways from the pandemic is that we need to put ourselves first. We need to prioritize our mental health, and we need to put the habits that do not serve us into the trash can; we need to make new friends that inspire us, not weigh us down. We need to focus on living our life to the fullest, which means appreciating even the tiniest things that put a smile on our face.
“Get so used to taking care of yourself that doing otherwise feels unbearably weird.” – Shannon Hilson
Like in American Football, a team fights for the ground they make for every yard of play, you should not focus on the end product in your life. Instead, take small incremental steps to improve yourself in your life and at work, to get rid of the habits that hold you back, and making the right decisions in the moments that matter.
“Celebrate the small wins. Small wins build momentum.” – @brokeblackgirl